Social Media... Is anyone faithful anymore?

Warning rant ahead...

I am so so sick of seeing couples relationships sprawled all over facebook, instagram etc, and when I look in my inbox PING, there's the boyfriend sliding in my DM's 2 days before their 4 year anniversary. (true story unfortunately). Does anyone else experience this? I get it so so much.

Now I'm more than aware that people have been cheating since day dot, I'm aware of Polyamory and non monogamous relationships, open relationships and many more. Everything doesn't require a label, but when you DO put a label on it, atleast respect it before you go smashing the jar right?!

I'm pretty sure I've had guys message me on every single social media platform. Lets see shall we. I have had the same guy messaging me for over 2 years on instagram (the fact he looks like a close relative to dinglewee from wring turn is completely irrelevant) saying things like "you're the most beautiful girl" and "you need to let me take you out" etc. This fella doesn't know when to quit. And I thought aw bless he's just being chivalrous and trying his luck, he's not being rude or threatening so what ever, plus I like stealing the memes he puts up on instagram sooo 🤷‍♀️. UNTIL I saw last month, he put up a post celebrating his FOUR YEAR RELATIONSHIP! It. Was. Everything! The "this girl is the most amazing in the world" and "I'm the luckiest man you changed me" and all that bulls*** post. Is it just me or does this just make your blood boil??? He has been with this girl for FOUR years, side stepping the fact this man is blatantly on drugs, either that or he's got rapid ageing syndrome, and makes absolutely zero effort to dress in anything other than kappa tracksuits, which I never knew they still mass produced but hey ho, but he has all the confidence in the world and a long standing girlfriend and I'm sat at home alone blogging like a lonely little troll with half decent wifi! Now speaking technical terms in 4 years you could get a DEGREE, you could learn to drive, pass both tests, buy a car and have to sell it for half price! PEOPLE! You could make, incubate and birth FIVE children in that time, yes it would hurt and you'd probably spend the rest of your days sat down living in adult nappies trying not to bladder sneeze everytime you laugh because your pelvic floor is shot, but mathematically you could. And for HALF that time he has been messaging me overly sickly sweet messages with short replies because I'm not ignorant. And you're telling me that he couldn't put even ONE pic of him and his girl up? Scum bag! And I wonder would he push his luck like this in person or not? Because he isn't overly creepy enough to report or kick off on if he spoke like this in person it's kind of casual messaging right? So I don't know, however just because it's online doesn't make it less hurtful, if anything is it more so? Because not just is he easily swayed but he goes out of his way to send me messages, in fact I found a few after me deleting them ages ago. In one he calls me the most amazing girls he has ever seen (ignoring the Mrs or is she in there too?) And telling me to have the most amazing Sunday because I deserve it because I'm the most good girl he's seen? What? He sounded like Parker off friends.

Sickeningly sweet I know but I thought aw bless. And lets be honest it's a confidence boost when you feel like absolute shite, but when they have a girlfriend, it just makes me feel sick! Absolute todger dodger!

The American over Facebook 🤬

So I was at a party a couple years ago and some lad called Jordan had been messaging me that day, he was NOT my type. This lad was okay looking but he was not the rough round the edges mans man I'm into. My mates as per usual were the ever encouraging little shits they always have been, and the fact my girls are hornier than most 14 year old boys is completely irrelevant here 🙄. My best friend was super into the look of this lad, oh did I mention he was AMERICAN. I say was as if he suddenly changed his birth location, he is still american to this day... as is his wife! The lovely little ray of shit shine she is. That's right this little arsewhipe was saying he wanted to come over to meet me, a girl he had just found on facebook and taken a liking to, and was asking if I would meet him if he came over. My mate was goading me I wont lie BF"ooh tell him to come over he's fit" Me "No I don't know him, I don't even fancy him you go out with him!" BF "Pft I will if he comes over 😂", so I told him this and apparently he was only interested in me (yeah right bitch). So I end up losing interest and ignoring him anyway.

Fast forward to the next day... I get an inbox from some random woman, and I mean this shit was nuclear!!! I was every c*** home wrecking s*** whore in the book. Any name a woman should NOT call another woman is exactly what I was, and in this rant she mentions it was her HUSBAND I was talking to!! Not that I'm one to EVER side with infidelity but if she spoke to him the way the bitch spoke to me, who'd blame him!

Then I see sense, the fact this bitch has gone through his messages means that she has seen ALL the messages, including the first one when he messaged me out the blue, and the ones where he was saying how gorgeous I am (bork) and asking to come over to England and I clearly said and I quote "no, I don't even know you). So this cheeky cow saw all of these and still had the cheek to go in on me and call me a home wrecker! Basically they had a child, something else this little f***er had failed to mention. Shock! I ended up having blazing murder with this woman and I mean if you could bottle words and use them in a fight they would be a schlok! I'm telling you now, these were the Chuck Norris of insults! But I'm a reasonable girl, and in all fairness that shit used to make my anxiety levels go through the roof as if this soft cow was going to jump a flight half way across the world and GPS track me to my house just to pull my hair over some fella I DIDN'T want. Bitch save your miles, I'm good. I ended up talking to her a lot, turns out they were married young, he was 18 at this point (married at 18 is scary young to me!) And I was 19 at this moment in time. I think he was 20 when he was messaging me. They had been together for years, and had a gorgeous little boy together. I don't care I could feel this girl cry over these messages, she was hurting so bad and I was literally the only person willing to listen. I will go into this a lot more in the future but basically this guy had been using facebook to find and 'hook up' with women behind her back and that's why she had been checking. This boy was MARRIED people MARRIED. I'm so sure being placed in holy matrimony in Gods eyes still applies online especially when you are meeting up with others in PERSON. And that's exactly what he did. He broke her heart time and time again and she stayed, I'm just glad this time it was me and not some girl who didn't give a fudge and jumped on it.

My point that I'm trying to make here is, in a study 35% of married people stated that their affair started on facebook. I'm not now nor will I ever blame social media for peoples inability to keep it in their pants. But you have to admit the jump in cheating has been HUGE since it happened. Years ago divorce and splits were a big thing, now it's as constant as updating your phone. Funny aint it?!

I have to wonder is social media causing peoples eyes to wander more? Making them braver at initiating the first move with people they shouldn't be entertaining? Is it just showing the pathway for them to do it easier? OR are most people just not made to be monogamous and take full advantage for a bit of strange, because lets face it, if you don't get out much or you know, work for a living. Odds are you will be forced to settle for someone close location wise, it's insane.

So I want to know what you think.

Is anyone faithful anymore or is social media just bringing the darkness of peoples affairs to light?

Until next time my little donuts and churros

Don't be a stranger and stay safe.

x x